For Harley Run free, sweet boy ❤️️ Last week Monday afternoon, I took our beloved Harley to the vet. I had no idea that only one day later we'd have to say Goodbye to him.On Wednesday, May 13, the day of his cremation, I wrote [...]

The Paradox of Becoming More Human How trying to be a good person kept me stuck Sometimes the qualities we try hardest to embody are the ones we are unconsciously defending against. For most of my adult life, I tried very hard to become [...]

What If Trauma Isn’t the Real Reason We Keep Suffering? Looking beyond trauma to understand the hidden mechanism of emotional repression In recent years, conversations about emotional trauma have become part of everyday language. And for many people, that shift has been profoundly validating. [...]

The Emotions We Bury Are Burning the World Why Global Crisis Feels Personal — and What Our Buried Emotions Have to Do With It Every day, millions of people wake up to news that feels both familiar and unbearable: Another massacre. Another war. Another [...]

Why ‘Feeling Calm and Regulated’ Didn’t Set Me Free On IFS, emotional repression, and the calm that masks the emotions buried since childhood This week, a client asked me about the difference between Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Kiloby Inquiries (KI) — particularly Emotional Repression [...]

Why You Can’t (and Shouldn’t) Choose Love How emotional repression—not willpower—determines whether love can flow Love Isn’t a Matter of Willpower I was talking with one of my mentees earlier this week about “choosing” love in moments that stretch us—when we’re tired, overstimulated, and [...]

Why Your Child’s Meltdown Triggers a Survival Response How emotional repression quietly shapes your parenting The Moment I Couldn’t Unhear There was a moment when my chest tightened, and something inside me went quiet—when I knew something important had been touched. My oldest son, [...]

The Hidden Cause of Holiday Overwhelm Why It Isn’t What You Think As we move into the holiday season, overwhelm rises everywhere — too many commitments, complex family dynamics, financial strain, and the pressure to create a “perfect” Christmas. It all feels so obviously [...]

When Will You Reclaim the Radio Channel Your Body Silenced to Survive?“We chain ourselves to free ourselves.” — The Wanderer This week’s blog is shorter, more intimate — and a little love note to a group whose folky, dreamy music has been speaking directly to my heart. [...]

Stop Expecting Your Loved Ones to Be the Parent You Never Had The Hidden Agenda Behind Wanting Time Alone We think we’re setting a boundary.We think we’re being reasonable.We think we’re communicating our needs. And in today’s era of self-care and healthy boundaries, wanting space [...]